Oh singlelady you just described Ro Laren from the next gen and just about everyone on Voyager. This would also apply to Riker's insubordination, Kirk's constant disregard of the the prime directive and insubordination, Checkov's struggle with him being unsure of himself, T'Pol's insubordination and sometimes questionable loyalty. It's apparent you don't like Star Trek at all if what you're describing is your beef with the show.
Have you ever watched Star Trek?
Were you a fan of Voyager?
How are you comparing those scenes and situations?
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